Did you know becoming a father is not just the art of making a woman pregnant but being their to support your wife and family. All men in one way or the other would want to become best dads. However, many of us have never been taught or mentored to become fathers and therefore we just find ourselves being fathers without experience.
In my all life I have not seen any program o T.V that mentors upcoming fathers like the mothers. At least mothers have Oprah shows that prepares the ladies on how to become mothers. To the men, its rumors rumors rumors! Men have always thought that being a father is all about, making money for the family, taking your children to a good school, buying a new car,etc.
Sorry to say this, as much as all the above mention are very important to the family, they are not a measure of a good father. I have come to learned a few things which can make a man to be a good father.
1. A father should be present with their children. Its very unfortunate that many fathers are always absent at home and the only way children can see their fathers is by seeing the pictures of the father. By being present, we tend to learn our children. Their strengths and weakness.
2. As a father, always remind yourself the bad things you saw in your chilhood, that you would not want to see happening to your children. We are brought from differrent backgrounds where the only words you heard fro your parents were insults and curse words. A good father should always remind themselves on such things so that they don't happen to their children.
3. Show your wife respect always. Make sure your kids do also. She is your wife and the mother to your children. Therefore, for your marriage to last successful, your wife should be shown more respect both from you the husband and the children.
4. In order to mentor your children, once in a while do those things your wife always do, for example cooking, cleaning utencils, etc.
Becoming a father is not inborn but we learn to be fathers.
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